Anonymous said: I think where one can see feminists putting down women who are more traditional is feminists with the "not like other girls" type of sentiment. Many (mostly younger) feminists adopt the idea that women are holding themselves back or dumb because they choose to put on make up, wear dresses, or want to stay home to be a mother, and are therefore better than other women who choose those things. It's a minuscule problem compared to the greater one of subverting these conventions, but still present.
I think that’s internalized misogyny and not the same thing.
The people who say they’re “not like other girls” will also say “girls are too catty” and say they only hang out with guys. They are overly eager to please men and the route they have chosen to do that is by being into sports, playing video games, not dressing feminine and saying very sexist things against women and being “one of the guys.” Young girls involved in that frame of thought don’t normally call themselves feminists.
That’s different than what I’ve been talking about which is the tendency of liberal feminism to pretend that following patriarchal conventions makes one as stigmatized as eschewing them.
But like, not to your response, but to the ask itself - the thing is that you don’t exist in a vacuum. I like many things that just so happen to be supported by patriarchy, and I can’t pretend that I only like them due to mere coincidence. It’s not a feminist act to enjoy things. Feeling personally empowered by things that women are strongly encouraged to enjoy is not feminist and doesn’t help women.
That last sentence tho Simone